From: mcnazgul	Date: January 17th, 2009 04:47 am (UTC)		(Link)

Wow. That's spoken with some vehemence. Care to elaborate?

	From: elrohana	Date: January 17th, 2009 11:05 am (UTC)		(Link)

I don't think real friends even think about the failure, to be honest, or forgiving it, because there is nothing to forgive. To err is human, to fogive, divine - and none of us down here are gods, so we just love our friends, warts and all.

And here is a *hug*, in case you need it.

	From: purp1e_magic	Date: January 19th, 2009 10:57 am (UTC)		(Link)

People who care about you care about what matters to you. If the reason of your failure is important, there's someone who cares. I doesn't matter in the sense of being a barrier to forgiveness. But it does matter in the sense of learning to understand one another better.

From another perspective, why you failed is far more important than the fact that you did. If I know why someone failed, I can do my best to minimised the chances of it happening again.

As an acquaintance, you failures are mistakes I don't have to make for myself. People learn from each other. The why and how is an important part of that. That doesn't imply malice, but, as you pointed out, the same process can be used for malice.

Then there's other people with shared responsibilities or ambitions. They don't need to be someone you know. Take scientific progress. If someone's experiment failed, other scientists will pick it apart to see why it failed, so that they can improve upon the theory.

The 'why' is important right from the most personal reasons to the most abstract. You could argue that why someone failed is far more interesting and personally important than the fact that they did.