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SINergy
Hmm, about time for my monthly SINergy whinge.
Here goes.

When I first started 'getting in' to SINergy, it was because I saw Darren and Graham losing the enthusiasm. Oh, I'm not talking so much about in session, but more in the general sense of keeping track of return sheets, following up long term plot, developing characters, that kind of thing.

And several people at the time, mentioned they'd not touch the reffing thing. I'm beginning to see why. Now one way or another Darren and Graham have been largely out of the loop for a while. Mostly due to real life issues, that were unavoidable (or perhaps, they were, but they are better off not avoided). That, as far as I'm concerned, is fair enough. Reffing SINergy really does take a lot of work.

The problem though, really isn't the amount of work. However much I grumble, I do enjoy running SINergy. It's a great feeling when things 'work' and you have 30 people all having a damn good time.

No, my problem is that when you're reffing, you can never get stuff right. Of those 30 people, they've all got opinions. A fair fraction of them have _conflicting_ opinions. Since you can never please everyone, you're left with trying to please the most. Or you have the choice of pissing everyone off, but with the aim of making it 'better' long term.

Time and again, you hear the same complaints, that things are 'unfair', or that 'my character is unplayable' or that 'you let me do it last time', or that 'you let so and so get away with it'.

And then, I stop for a moment. And I think "well, fuck'em. I volunteered to try and do this. So I'm going to. If I do a sufficiently bad job that everyone hates me enough to give it a go themselves, then so much the better. If I don't then they're just being backseat drivers, happy to criticise others, but lacking the will to 'do it better'".

Today, I've managed to brighten someone's day.
Tonight, I'm off for a birthday meal in pleasant company.
Tomorrow, I'll be in the Beer Engine with a group of people I consider friends.

These things are important.

SINergy is something I put time and effort in to. The fact that it's still in existance is a tribute to the hard work of the people who've been keeping it going. Regardless of various opinions, they can't take that away from me. All the fussing and moaning, at the end of the day, isn't all that important.
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jorune From: jorune Date: October 21st, 2004 03:48 am (UTC) (Link)
I agree with your sentiments. Running a larp for a group of 'strangers' can be tough as you're playing with people's expectations. They range from 'I want everyone to go slow and the whole thing to develop organically' to 'I demand constant change, constant activity from everyone'.

I guess this is why I find freeforms more rewarding. Usually they are fixed around one or two key ideas about the game and its effective metareality; Concepts to which everyone can agree to. The most recent example being the Buffy tv show. Due to this it allows the players and the refs to go forward with a virtual social contract of what the game will be, thus stopping the angst and grit above.
xarrion From: xarrion Date: October 21st, 2004 05:24 am (UTC) (Link)
Of those 30 people, they've all got opinions. A fair fraction of them have _conflicting_ opinions. Since you can never please everyone, you're left with trying to please the most. Or you have the choice of pissing everyone off, but with the aim of making it 'better' long term.

Time and again, you hear the same complaints, that things are 'unfair', or that 'my character is unplayable' or that 'you let me do it last time', or that 'you let so and so get away with it'.


Let's face it, that's more or less the NRT players.
In most systems it tends to be the vocal minority who do the most damage. It was certainly the case on Than.

You're absolutely right in your reasoning though. You've pretty much kept the game going since you took over, and you should have a large proportion of the say in what happens - with possible deference to Graham, it supposedly being 'his' system.
Think of it like this, if you will: For every person who complains about a ruling (or whatever) there are ten or so people who are happy about how the game works, and agree with who works it.
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sobrique From: sobrique Date: October 21st, 2004 08:02 am (UTC) (Link)
Show me a person who's never wrong, and I'll show you a person who's either a liar, or who's never been given any responsibility.

Remember, it takes a wise man to make a big mistake, since no one trusts a fool with the responsibility.
jorune From: jorune Date: October 21st, 2004 10:37 am (UTC) (Link)
It takes a human being to make a big mistake and there are millions of fools with responsibility.
iamnotramphus From: iamnotramphus Date: October 21st, 2004 09:03 am (UTC) (Link)
Fuck 'em. Part of eing a teacher is knowing that thing you do are not always popular. As long as you think the things you do are right, and for the right reasons, everything is ok. It is normally only a minority who complain anyway.

Of course, it has to be vaguley flexible, otherwise that opinion can be a tad too arrogant.
xarrion From: xarrion Date: October 21st, 2004 09:08 am (UTC) (Link)
As long as you think the things you do are right, and for the right reasons, everything is ok

Tad dangerous way of doing things. Think 'terrorism' for example...
sobrique From: sobrique Date: October 21st, 2004 10:52 am (UTC) (Link)
Well, terrorism is tough for everyone else.
But the terrorist believes, against all argument that his cause is worth killing and dying for.

It takes a lot to gain that level of 'focus'.
xarrion From: xarrion Date: October 21st, 2004 01:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'd rather the SINergy refs didn't go too far down that particular road tho'..
sobrique From: sobrique Date: October 25th, 2004 08:30 am (UTC) (Link)
Aw, go on. There's a few SINergy players in need of a bit of killing.
crashbarrier From: crashbarrier Date: October 21st, 2004 09:51 am (UTC) (Link)
you can't please all of the people all of the time.. so damn them all and please yourself:).

I think your doing a damn good job. you listen to my whinges and give objective advice etc.. if the dvice you give me is similar in content to the advice or comments you give to others then if they're actually paying attention to what you say they can't complain. if they are complaining then they havn't listened to what you've said, and its their problem
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